Natalie Lue, one of Healing Hub's recommended Self-Help Gurus

A quick introduction to Natalie Lue

Helping you reclaim your emotional baggage.

I first came across Natalie Lue’s work when I was in the midst of an addictive breakup cycle.

Googling to understand why my thoughts had taken on a life of their own, I landed on her blog, Baggage Reclaim.

Specifically, it was this post:

Don’t They Care About Me? Didn’t I Mean Something To Them?

So I read it.

Then I walked away from my computer, made a hot drink, and took a deep breath.

Then walked back my desk. And I read the post again.

Speaking from experience.

You know that feeling when someone else’s experience chimes so readily with your own? That sense you’ve met a kindred spirit. Or that they’ve already found the secret sauce you’ve been looking for.

Yeah, I felt that sensation. (Yes, guys wonder these things too after a breakup).

It was all in there. The “My ex should be doing this not thats!” The “I must not be good enoughs.” The churning feelings of “Am I so easy to replace?”

It’s a remarkably comforting feeling, realising that someone else understands what you’re going through. Especially at a time when your thoughts and feelings and hormones are all battling with each other inside your own head.

So then I went and read another couple of Natalie’s posts.


Stop Ruminating. Stop Obsessing. Stop Over-Thinking. Very little is going to happen without ACTION.

And this:

Understanding Code Red and Amber behaviour in Relationships

And after that, I came to a simple conclusion…

Natalie Lue knows her stuff.

She sees the patterns people play out. She knows how to explain them in a clear, kind, straight-talking and non-judgemental manner. And when it comes to giving advice, she talks a lot of sense.

After that, I became a regular reader of her blog at Baggage Reclaim. I also subscribed to her podcast, The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. And I put several of her books on my to-read list. (She also does one-to-one coaching, and runs a series of courses and events, which I’d hope to report on some day. Watch this space for that).

Because she writes from her own (extensive) experience, Natalie’s work is, admittedly, more geared towards advising women. But if you’re a guy, don’t let that put you off; much of the wisdom in her words applies to anyone.

If you’re looking to heal from a breakup, understand yourself better, or form better relationships with the people in your life, Natalie Lue’s website is an excellent place to start.

And once you’ve done that, try checking out some of the other Healing Resources from Natalie below.

All the best,


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Credit for post header image: a photo of Natalie Lue taken from The ‘My Story’ page at

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